Parents have questions about drop off and pick up time

I received an email from Loving guidance with the following information that I thought that you might find helpful.

Questions & Answers:
1. What should I do when my preschooler clings on to me when I drop him off at preschool?

Your preschooler’s body is telling you important information about his feelings.This is not the time to trick him by talking about the fun activities he will be experiencing that morning. Be honest and listen to his body. Say, “Your body tells me you’re feeling a little unsure about staying. Take my hands and let’s find your S.T.A.R. power.” (Lead child in breathing.) Breathe and see the child as capable and strong, instead of feeling bad about leaving or angry that he is doing this again. Do an I Love You Ritual together, breathe again and assertively state, “I will see you in 8 hours, you can handle it.” Turn and walk away, breathing and him wishing well.

2. What should I do when my preschooler doesn’t want to leave preschool?

Your preschooler communicates to you through his/her actions. Let go of the list of things you are going to be late for and your agenda, and become present in this moment. This allows you to stop being angry or trying to bribe the child. Speak to the moment. Bend down at her eye level and say, “You’ve had a great day with all your friends. It’s hard to leave when you are having so much fun. You seem angry. When we are angry we can be a drain or a balloon. Which do you choose?” Perform the active calming technique and breathe together. Then assertively state, “You can take my hand or skip to the car,” or two other acceptable choices for getting into the car.